Helping a Friend in Crisis

In 1998, suicide was the eighth leading cause of death for all Americans, but the second leading killer in the college population. Clinical depression affects more than 19 million adults every year. Although women suffer from clinical depression and attempt suicide more than men, men are more likely to complete the act. Any talk of suicide by a friend or loved one should be taken seriously and help should be sought immediately.

There are ways to help a friend or loved one who is thinking of taking their life. There are several UCR resources that can help: Counseling and Psychological Services, Residence Hall staff, professors, TAs, a UCR Case Manager and the Dean of Students office.

Know the Symptoms

Depression and thoughts of suicide can impact a person's life in many different ways. Not everyone experiences depression and suicidal tendencies in the same way.

Some people may have behavioral changes, while others experience physical changes. If depression is present, substance abuse, anxiety, impulsivity, rage, and hopelessness may increase the risk of suicide.

Common Warning Signs Include:

Specific Warning Signs Include:

Suicide Can Also Be Triggered By:

Responding to Someone Who is Suicidal

Listen and offer emotional support, understanding and patience.

Be honest. Express your concerns. For example, "You seemed really down lately. Is something bothering you?"

Ask directly about thoughts of suicide. For example, "Have you thought about killing yourself or ending your life?" If suicidal thoughts, intentions or plans are expressed, it's important to contact Counseling and Psychological Services, the Dean of Students Office, or if in the Residence Halls, your RA, RD or someone else in charge.

Convey the message that depression is real, common and treatable. Suicidal feelings are real, preventable, and treatable. Offer to accompany your friend to see a counselor at Counseling and Psychological Services or other person who can help.

If you discover that your friend has a specific plan or a timetable for harming themself, take it seriously. Call an appropriate campus resource right away. Don't leave the person alone even if they say something like, "I'm okay now." Get someone to stay with your friend, or accompany your friend to Counseling and Psychological Services or to the emergency room of a local hospital. If your friend is in immediate danger of hurting themself, call campus police (9-1-1).

Talk to a Case Manager

Get help with resources including housing, food and healthcare

In An Emergency

Find out where to go and who to call for help.