Helping a Friend in Crisis

In your concern about a friend or loved one, if you notice any of the warning signs mentioned in "Helping a friend in need", you have reason to be concerned. There are ways that you can be helpful to a friend or loved one who is thinking of taking their own life. Let someone know who can help, for example, the Counseling Center, Residence Hall staff, professors, TAs, or the Dean of Students Office.

Be honest and express your concerns. For example, "You seemed really down lately; is something bothering you?"

Ask directly about thoughts of suicide. For example, "Have you thought of hurting yourself?" If suicidal thoughts, intentions or plans are expressed it is important to contact the UCR Counseling Center, the Dean of Students Office, or if in the Residence Halls, your RA, RD or other person in charge.

Listen and offer emotional support, understanding and patience.

Convey the message that depression is real, common and treatable. Suicidal feelings are real, preventable, and treatable.

 


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Offer to accompany your friend to see a counselor at the Counseling Center or other person who can help.

If you discover that your friend has a specific plan or a timetable for harming her/himself, take it seriously. Call an appropriate campus resource right away. Don't leave the person alone, even if they say something like, "I'm okay now." Get someone to stay with your friend, or accompany your friend to the Counseling Center or to the emergency room of a local hospital. If your friend is in immediate danger of hurting her/himself, call campus police (9-1-1).

Local Resources are available to help individuals in crisis.



Counseling Center
Veitch Student Center
North Wing
University of California, Riverside
Riverside, CA 92521-0320
Phone: (951) 827-5531
Fax: (951) 827-2015